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Personal development

It is not about being the best, it is about being better than yesterday.

When you make certain choices in life, there are always consequences. This was also the case for me, after I decided to work independently as a coach. I have always been a social person, I like to be with nice people. However, in front of large groups I was rather introverted. If I had to speak in front of groups of people, I would clam up and not be able to get my words across. As a result, I was, understandably, always extremely nervous weeks beforehand. This really bothered me, because I knew that in this profession it is very important not to be introverted in front of a large group.

What was the solution? To DO it anyway. I had already learned somewhere that the greatest successes lie outside your comfort zone. My 'why' was so strong, I had a really big intrinsic motivation to help others, that I had to get over my fear. The so-called ice cold shower took place on 1 February 2020. I stood in front of a group of about 100 people, and was allowed to share my story: how I had started as an independent coach. That did not go very smoothly, but I did it. That day changed my life. Something in me kept saying that I had to do this.

In the months that followed, I kept practising, organising online presentations via Zoom. In those presentations, I explained to family and friends (later also to strangers) what my new business was all about. This did not always go smoothly, but eventually I noticed that I was actually developing skills. So the very simple phrase: 'just do it' really has a positive effect if you work at it consistently.

When, in September 2020, I decided to run my business full time, more and more beautiful insights came to me. Suddenly I really enjoyed sharing my story in front of a large group! So that has been a drastic change in just over six months. Partly because of this, I am also much less bothered by stuttering (speech impediment). Where I used to stutter a lot, especially in front of groups and during enthusiasm, I hardly do so now! You can imagine how grateful I am for this. This has grown through that one decision: to do what I really wanted to do.

At this moment, I give a (online) presentation to a large group almost every week, and I even get to train other entrepreneurs! The photo shows a training that I was allowed to give at a beautiful live location, which was just a little bit different than via Zoom! I enjoy it every time again when I can talk about my passion, to individuals, but also to groups.

This is not the only thing I have experienced in the area of personal development. I have also discovered who I really am. Only when you really do what you like, can you achieve beautiful things. I have learned to put myself first, and to say 'no' to people for a change. When I started out as a self-employed person, a lot of people had an opinion on this, of course. Friends, but also family, had a certain conditioning about this, or even resisted it. In the past, I would have doubted whether this would be the right thing to do, but now I decided otherwise. I went for it! My 'why' was and is big enough! I saw this negativity and distrust about my success as extra motivation to go for it! Wanting to prove me wrong has been a very good motivator for me, because this is exactly what I wanted! This piece of development and these choices have now led me to a successful business in which I can help more than 50 people every day. This has made me realise that with the right mindset and motivation, great things can be achieved!

Everything I have learned in recent years, I apply in my projects. I would like to see everyone benefit from this development and way of living! Are you ready to really choose for yourself?